Maintaining My Successes for BFRBs
A word about success: Learning to manage your TTM or SE takes a lot of hard work. If you are noticing improvements, take some time to give yourself some credit: reward yourself! However, success is sometimes slow in coming, and it may not mean you are not working hard. It’s important to remember that success is in the effort, not the outcome. This means you can cheer for yourself when you practice using the tools, even if at first the pulling or picking persists. But of course, the more you practices, the more likely the tools will begin to work. It is also important to remember that the purpose of these tools is to help control the urges, not to eliminate them. Just because you have an urge does not mean you’re failing. In other words, its what you do with the urge that counts, not the urge itself.
How do you maintain all the progress you’ve made?
PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE!!
The BFRB management skills presented here are designed to teach you new and more effective ways of dealing with your BFRB urges and behaviours. If you practice these skills often, you will find that your symptoms will have a weaker and weaker hold over you.
Learning to manage anxiety, stress, and BFRB symptoms is a lot like exercise – you need to “keep in shape” and practice your skills regularly. Make them a habit, even after you are feeling better and you have reached your goals.
For more information on how to maintain your progress and how to cope with relapses in symptoms, see How to Prevent a Relapse.