Has worrying really been helpful to you?
Rethink the Usefulness of Worrying
"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength." — Corrie ten Boom
Whether you have known all along that you believe worrying is useful, or just learned that you do, it is worthwhile to think carefully about whether your worries are really helping you in the ways that you think they are. Here are some questions that you can ask yourself:
|Belief||Questions to Help You Rethink Your Beliefs|
|Worrying shows I am a caring person.||
|Worrying helps me to solve problems.||
|Worrying motivates me.||
|Worrying protects me from feeling bad later.||
|Worrying prevents bad things from happening.||
You may also want to ask yourself: What has worrying cost me?
- Has worrying affected your relationships? Are people sometimes annoyed with you or concerned about you for worrying so much?
- How much time, effort, and energy do you spend worrying? Is it worth it?
- Has worrying affected you physically? Are you tense all the time, often tired, or do you have trouble sleeping because of your worries?
- What else could you be doing with the time and energy you are spending on having the same worries over and over?
Is it possible to get the same result some other way?
For example, can you be a caring mother and not constantly worry? Can you be organized, prepared, and motivated without worrying all the time?
If you are convinced your worries are not helpful then you can learn new skills to manage your worrying. Check out Managing Worry for tips on managing excessive worrying.