Here are some questions that you can ask yourself:
|Worry Beliefs||Questions To Help You Rethink Your Beliefs|
|Worrying shows I am a caring person.||
|Worrying helps me to be prepared and to solve problems.||
|Worrying motivates me.||
|Worrying protects me from feeling bad.||
|Worrying prevents bad things from happening.||
Worry becomes a bigger problem when it happens almost every day, and becomes excessive and uncontrollable. If you find you worry more than your friends, worry about a lot of things, and find it hard to stop, then you may have something called Generalized Anxiety Disorder. You may want to tell an adult you trust (like your parent, school counsellor, or doctor) and possibly seek some professional help.
Another way you can rethink the usefulness of worrying is to ask yourself how much you’ve lost because of worrying. For example:
- Has it affected my relationships? Are people sometimes annoyed with me for worrying so much? Or concerned about me?
- How much time, effort, and energy have I spent worrying? Is it worth it?
- Has it affected me physically? Am I tense all the time, often tired, or do I have trouble sleeping because of my worries?
If you STILL believe your worries can be helpful from time to time, ask yourself: “Is it possible to get the same result some other way?” For example, can I be a caring sister and not worry? Can I be organized, prepared, and motivated without worrying all the time? If you think it is possible to get the same results without the worry, then you too can choose to learn new skills to manage your worrying.
“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.” — Corrie ten Boom
If you are convinced your worries are not helpful(that they are not doing what you think they are and have cost you a lot in your life), then you can choose to learn new skills to take charge of your constant worrying. You will find that the Thinking Right Tools can help you manage your worries.
When you stop worrying you free the mental and emotional energy you need to be more creative, spontaneous, and flexible. And you are definitely a lot more fun to hang out with. Trust us!