Follow these simple tips to help students minimize their anxiety on the first day back.
One week before school:
1. Start your School Sleep Routine
Routines can be relaxed in the summer, so a week prior to school is a good time to adjust the family schedule to get everyone back into morning and bedtime habits.
- Establish bed times for the school year and start following them
- Ensure the entire family is up when they would be for school
- For older children, give them their own alarm clock and let them practice using it
- Ensure that the entire family get involved so that your child doesn’t feel alone with these changes
2. Promote Healthy Eating Habits
Nutrition is extremely important; it’s hard to cope well when you are tired or hungry, so provide your child nutritious and frequent snacks and build in regular routines.
- Start having your meals around regular mealtimes
- Ask your child to help you create a school lunch menu for the first week of school
- Allow your child to pick out his or her favourite snacks
- Allow your child to help you plan your dinner meals; this way they will have a yummy dinner to look forward to
3. Shop for Supplies
Make picking out school supplies a fun task!
- Create a list of school supplies with your child
- Plan a fun shopping trip to pick out supplies
4. Encourage Your Child to Share His or Her Fears
Talk to your child about his or her worries and practice coping skills
- Touch base with your child at a regular time each day to discuss your child’s worries and encourage him or her to problem solve and plan
- Role-play with your child
- Focus on the positive aspects – ask your child to list the three things that they are most excited about on the first day
- Practice calm breathing with your child – they can learn to use this when her anxiety rises
- Develop cognitive coping cards that your child can use to help cope with anxiety
A couple of days before school:
5. Do a dry-run
- Go to school several times – walking, driving, or taking the bus
- For young children, describe and draw out the route and include how long it will take
- For younger children, go to the schoolyard and play a few times before the first day of school
6. Tour the School
- For new students, take a tour of the school
- Show your child the classrooms, the cafeteria, and the bathrooms
- Meet your child’s teacher with your child present, if possible
7. Plan the Outfits
- Ask your child to help choose the outfits for the first week of school
- Let your child pick out his or her favorite outfit for the first day
8. Pack the Backpack
- Together with your child, pack the backpack the night before, including treats
9. Choose a Special Object
- For younger children who are nervous about separating, suggest taking a special object to school that reminds him or her of home
- Put a reassuring note in a child’s lunch can also help ease separation anxiety
The first day of school:
10. Walk with a Friend
- Try and arrange that your child walks with a friend to school for the first couple of days
- Arrange play days with school mates leading up to the first day
11. Talk to the Teacher
- Let the teacher know that your child is having some separation anxiety
12. Praise and Reward
- Most importantly, praise and reward your child for brave behavior!
Download the 12-Step Back to School Checklist
Here are additional resources to help your child ease back into school.
- Helping your Child Cope with Back to School Anxiety – How to Deal with Back-to-School Worries
- My Anxiety Plan for Children – A free online anxiety management toolkit and step-by-step guide for parents of children with anxiety
- Mindshift App
- Separation Anxiety During the First Days of Kindergarten